Tantric sex is now in the spotlight but what is it and how can it help your love life? Read on and find out,its not what many people think.

We have to make it clear we are writing about neo-Tantra, or the Tantra of the New Age. The classic Hindu and Buddhist Tantra would take years to master and in any event, without a living Master to lead your progress, you would quickly either lose interest, or go astray.

Neo-Tantra as it is called is a fusion of the yogic principles and our todays busy life.

They can be reconciled and then when applied to everyday events, such as lovemaking, the action becomes meditative, spontaneous and very intimate.

One prolongs the act of making love and focus on, rather than dispel, potent orgasmic energies moving through you, thereby raising the level of your consciousness.

To help achieve this, the man needs to have proper ejaculatory control, the woman needs to have control over her vagina and womb, and both partners need proper breath control. Gaining this kind of self-control over your body and breath also is applied to your higher nature, and this is why Tantra (classic or neo) works.

In addition to enhanced lovemaking powers, you will find your sexual stamina increases as well when you practice tantric sex.

The Deer Exercise

The deer has been observed in the forest constantly performing a similar movement as described below, and has been ascribed to not only the deers great sexual strength and stamina, but its life-long youthful appearance. It can also give men a great control over ejaculation and women a greater grasping control within their vaginas.

This exercise is done by both men and women (this is also known as a kegel exercise). Many yogis believe that prolapse (loosening of the muscles) of the anus is a cause of premature aging.

Therefore maintaining the strength of this muscle, can help you to remain youthful.

To do the Deer Exercise, squeeze and hold the muscles that help you retain your urine. As you sit, and tense these muscles, they feel between the scrotum and anus. The muscles are flexed and released repeatedly for a specific count; say to 15, then relaxed for the same period. You can do these exercises anywhere, and everywhere, in complete privacy, and the results can be understood almost immediately.

The Three Breath Rejuvenation Exercise

This exercise can give you not only control over ejaculation but you find yourself surprisingly refreshed each time you perform it. It can (and should) be done several times during the day. Women will also find that with greater breath control, their orgasms become more intense, longer lasting and more frequent.

To begin, close the left nostril and breathe in through the right for a specific count, say 5 to begin. Be rhythmical, and steady in your counting. After you have breathed in close the both nostrils and hold your breath for a count of 5. Then release the right nostril and exhale to a count of 5.

Without pause, repeat breathing in with the right nostril, and exhaling (after holding) through the left one. Do this at least 10 times. While you are doing so, feel your body filling up with the universal engery (imagine it at the least) and you will feel real tingling by the 6th repeated set.

If you do no more than the two exercises above, you will have achieved more success than you may have reckoned for. The next time you have a sexual encounter, your toned up kegel muscles, and your body, full of universal energy, will perform much better.

In neo-Tanta this translates into taking your time, enjoying the situation to its full, and feeling the wonderful energy of your partner and yourself rising to new heights.