Barbi was studying the Tarot and had demonstrated a great 'gift' for it. Her Empathic qualities are probably related to the early life place where she went to escape from her sexually abusive grandfather mentioned in the poem Life is a Fantasy.

When we made LOVE she regularly 'blacked out' during orgasm and would 'come to' having an orgasm still. I would sometimes go with her consciously and often would change positions. This unusual sexual 'attunement' is called La Petite Mort or 'the little death'.

I heard a sex expert on TV say it was only experienced by one out of a million people. She was not able to consciously recollect her experience while 'blacked out' and I would have to help her sense what it was. This also helped her with her self-esteem issues. She later joined 'The Builders of the Adytium' correspondence course on the Tarot partially because of something else that happened this day. The 'Builders' are one of the feeder organizations in the Rosicrucian hierarchy. This hierarchy is still the subject of research for me, but at that time I already knew they aspired to be alchemists and were a Christian mystery school.

Empathy is much more than the kind of listening technique covered by Steven Covey in 'Seven Steps' or even walking a mile in anothers moccasins. It is part of how people heal each other.